Nicole Kidman has always had the ability to appear calm and cool, but at one point she was married to Tom Cruise and her life was full of a turbulence that she kept hidden away from the masses. Today she has opened up about her struggle. Here’s the story.
Tom Cruise On A Mission
It was 1989 and no star was bigger than Tom Cruise. He was on top of the world when he took notice of a budding Nicole Kidman. He saw her in 1989’s Dead Calm and wanted her in his next film. He was successful in getting her the starring role in Days of Thunder and it was that role that made her a star. During this film, sparks would start to fly between the two.
Quick Route To Marriage
Not a year after Days of Thunder was released Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman were married. During an interview with Vanity Fair, Kidman stated the following, “[Cruise] basically swept me off my feet. I fell madly, passionately in love. And as happens when you fall in love, my whole plan in terms of what I wanted for my life — I was like, ‘Forget it. This is it.'”
Scientology Steps Between Them
While the two were both living on cloud nine for a while, all that glitters isn’t gold. The Cruise and Kidman wedding was heavily tied to the world of Scientology. He was already heavily involved in the church and while Kidman was going along with things, it did weird her out. David Miscavige, the Church of Scientology’s head was the best man at the wedding.
A Looming Presence
While the Church of Scientology wasn’t an immediate terror in her life, things would later take a darker turn. While it seemed like Nicole Kidman had nabbed the hottest actor in Hollywood, she would slowly lose him to the world of the Church of Scientology. Their presence would continue to grow stronger and stronger.
Adopting Their Child
In the beginning, their lives couldn’t have been any better. She really wanted to have a baby with Cruise after the wedding, but it wouldn’t be easy for them. After many failed attempts, it came out that the couple had some fertility issues. Adoption was the next option for them. Kidman touched on this by saying, “My mother has an adopted sister, so it’s been part of our family and I knew it would probably play out somewhere in mine. I didn’t think that it would happen so early but it did,”
Meet Bella And Connor
Without the option of pregnancy, Kidman and Cruise decided to adopt. They adopted two children, a girl named Bella who they adopted in 1993 and Connor who they adopted in 1995. The kids grew up right amidst the height of the couple’s career. Through the 1990’s, they starred in huge films like Batman Forever, Jerry Maguire and Mission Impossible. The two stars even acted opposite one another in Eyes Wide Shut.
Hollywood’s Biggest Separation
The whole world was in love with Hollywood’s cutest couple. Sadly, hearts were broken when they announced that they were splitting up in 2001 after 11 years of marriage. Pat Kingsley. their spokesman announced it to the world by saying, “Citing the difficulties inherent in divergent careers which constantly kept them apart, they concluded that an amicable separation seemed best for both of them at this time.”
The world was in absolute shock by the split. Fans and the media alike began to speculate as to why they were split up. One news outlet went on to claim that the split was due to Nicole Kidman wanting to spend more time in Austrailia, her home country. There were also claims that Scientology was the true problem. They claimed that the separation was the result of Kidman being unwilling to fully embrace Scientology as her religion.
The Reason: Eyes Wide Shut
Many thought that it Eyes Wide Shut that led to their breakup. It’s no secret that the shooting schedule was intense and very stressful on the actors. The rumor was later denied as Kidman stated in an interview the following, “People thought that making the film was the beginning of the end of my marriage,” she wrote. “But I don’t really think it was. Tom and I were close then.”
While it definitely wasn’t the problem that broke the marriage, it was clear that her issues with having a baby really took a toll on the actress. Marie Claire had an interview with the actress in 2007 and she said the following, “I had a miscarriage at the end of my marriage, but I had an ectopic pregnancy at the beginning of my marriage. It was incredibly traumatic for me,”
Luckily, Nicole Kidman’s bad luck with making babies didn’t last forever. Just a few years after her separation with Tom Cruise, Kidman married Keith Urban and was finally able to have some children. Her first child was born in 2008 and then she had a second in 2010. She had finally given birth. In 2018, she went on to have an exclusive interview with Tatler magazine andhighlight all that she had been through.
The Heartbreak Of Nicole Kidman
During the interview, she covered all the suffering she had gone through while trying to have her babies. She went on to state, “I know the yearning. That yearning. It’s a huge, aching yearning,” she said. “And the loss! The loss of a miscarriage is not talked about enough. That’s massive grief to certain women.”
All Worth It
Her pain seems to have ended on a positive note. “There’s an enormous amount of pain and an enormous amount of joy on the other side,” She continued by saying. “The flipside of going through so much yearning and pain to get there is the feeling of ‘Ahhhh!’ when you have the child.” Kidman had finally got what she had yearned for. The one thing that Tom Cruise couldn’t provide her with.
Feeling Completely Lost
Kidman didn’t just stick to baby talk, she also went on about how she felt after she had divorced Tom Cruise. She said that she felt horribly alone. Despite winning an Oscar the following year and being at the height of her career, Kidman felt completely empty inside and lost to the world. She still very badly wanted a baby at that time and was even considering going at it alone.
Disconnected From Children
One of the reasons why Nicole was feeling so alone might have to do with Scientology’s practice of disconnecting. Disconnecting pretty much means that if you have a family member or friend that isn’t a Scientologist, you have to disconnect with them. This a practice that has separated families. Tom Cruise probably wouldn’t allow Isabella or Connor to see their mother.
The Tatler Article
One of the most memorable parts of the Tatler article was when the interviewer shared some personal information with the actress. They stated in the article, “When I tell her that I also went through a divorce and also experienced issues with fertility, she is immediately empathetic. ‘And you were shattered?’ she asks, as if she knows only too well what that’s like.”
The Future Of Kidman
Since divorcing Cruise her career has skyrocketed to new heights and has put together quite the life. Only a year after the split she won an Oscar for her role in Virginia W0olf. She has also garnered two other nominations for her roles in Lion and Rabbit Hole. Her personal life is also doing great. She has been in a very steady marriage and now has two kids. Things couldn’t get any better for this actress.
Tom And Katie
Tom Cruise has also had luck making a child. Since his split with Nicole Kidman, he has married Katie Holmes. They two had their first child together, a daughter named Suri. Sadly, his marriage again crumbled as Katie divorced him in 2012 and took primary custody of their child. Likewise, to when he split with Kidman, rumors spread that it was Scientology that ended their marriage.
Looking Back At Kidman And Cruise
That said, it is very saddening that infertility plagued the marriage between Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise. It does have a negative effect on marriages. This has been proven by studies that have taken place in Denmark. They say that couples who are unable to have a baby after they go through fertility treatments are very likely to eventually split up.
Kidman Continues To Thrive
One can’t help but admire the 51-year-old actress. She has been through so many trials and tribulation whilst on the pathway to happiness. She had to deal with one failed marriage, Scientology, and her miscarriages. Nicole Kidman’s career is as big as ever. She has four films in post production as we speak. We can all look forward to seeing her in 2018’s Aquaman which is due to come out later this year.